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Weekly Photo Challenge: Dreaming

Last week, on a grandparents day out, we took our little granddaughter to a huge lake with a beach and supervised swimming area. Once we’d found a suitable shady area to set up camp, laid out her blanket so she had a place to crawl, she sat motionless – almost mesmerised as she surveyed all before her. Watching her so lost in her own thoughts I wondered what she could be dreaming about.

Is she looking at the breathtaking scenery or dreaming about playing in the lake?

Is she looking at the breathtaking scenery or dreaming about playing in the lake?

Could it be the breathtaking scenery or the children swimming and playing on inflatable toys on the lake, squealing with delight as they splashed each other. Or perhaps she felt sorry for the little boy who stood at the water’s edge crying because he was too scared to go in the water. Maybe she wanted to join them, but the look on her face was that of far deeper concentration. How I wished I could ask her to share her thoughts and dreams.

This post was inspired by the WordPress Weekly Photo Challenge this week’s theme is “Dreaming”

Together

Little Piglet meets her UK cousin for the first time

Little Piglet meets her UK cousin for the first time

Living so far from my family I really treasure the time we are together. Last month it was our granddaughter’s (Little Piglet) first Birthday, and all the Piglet clan gathered in France to celebrate the occasion. Not only were our children altogether, but it was the first time our grandson, who is seven months and lives in the UK, met his French cousin “Little Piglet”, plus his aunty and uncle PIF.

As you can imagine my camera was in constant use as I tried to capture the special moments and preserve the wonderful memories. But can we really capture the emotions we feel and preserve them with the click of a button?

Catching the grandchildrens attention is not easy

Catching the grandchildrens attention is not easy

Oh, and I do take my hat off to professional photographers who specialise in family snaps. My goodness, it’s a real art trying to persuade two babies, to look at you (camera) at the same time, especially when one is intent on crawling off!

Deep in conversation

Deep in conversation


This post was inspired by the WordPress Weekly Photo challenge. The theme: “Together”…

Any tips on taking baby photos greatly appreciated!

hApPy BiRtHdAy

Today is our little granddaughter’s first birthday. We cannot believe it’s a year ago since she was born. She is a little ray of sunshine!

Happy First Birthday

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Peaceful – Why do Children’s Toys Make so Much Noise?

This post is inspired by the WordPress Weekly Photo Challenge. The theme is Peaceful.

My baby grandson sleeps peacefully

My baby grandson sleeps peacefully

My little grandson sleeps peacefully with not a care in the world. His only needs are love, food, warmth, clean nappies, “winding” and sleep – how simple life is when you are a baby! As I watch over him, his basic needs fulfilled, he is so happy and content. He is adorable.

As adults are we driven by materialistic ideals as we strive for more – and once we have more, are we truly happy?

As a new grandparent I am adapting to modern-day parenting. I wander aimlessly around the toy shops and baby stores trying to get-to-grips with all the expensive toys, designer baby clothes and equipment such as: push chairs, cots and high chairs plus other “must have” accessories such as baby bouncers, walkers and even baby gyms. Yes, baby gyms! (They are cute though)

I pause, look at the exorbitant prices – I am stunned…

HOW MUCH?” I exclaim in absolute horror! (I can see some of you nodding in agreement)

And why does nearly every toy these days need a battery? Batteries are SO expensive to buy! Is it necessary to surround babies with so much electronic noise? I sigh as I remember all the simple toys such as building blocks, jack in a box, and plastic cups my children grew up with; it did not take much to make them happy then, so why is it so different now? A battery operated toy was a luxury not the norm.

This crazy cacophony of electronic noise is enough to drive me to distraction and I can reach for the off switch! Poor baby. If there are several of these toys shouting for attention all at once, is this healthy? Maybe I am old-fashioned, but aren’t babies entitled to peace too?

So as I reflect on the word “peaceful” and in the name of sanity I am tempted to start a “PEACEFUL TOY” revolution!

If you are a parent, baby or grandparent, aunt, great cousin (three times removed) or even a demented observer – am I just grumpy, or are children’s toys today destroying the “sound” ozone layer of our daily lives?

Memories of a French Christmas

Snow transformed the surrounding countryside into a magical white world

Snow transformed the surrounding countryside into a magical white world

This year we spent a magical Christmas in France with our daughter, hubby (SIL) and adorable baby granddaughter. The night before we arrived a heavy fall of snow transformed the surrounding countryside into a magical white world which set the scene for the perfect “White” Christmas. Their home was also transformed with an array of Christmassy decorations including a huge Christmas tree with twinkling fairy lights, glittering gold tinsel and red shiny glass baubles. Our baby granddaughter  captivated by the tree,  squealed with delight when I allowed her to “gently” touch one of the shiny decorations. The wood burner, although temperamental, also added to the overall ambience especially when you looked outside at the snow and then felt the warmth within.  Hypnotised by the fire I watched the dancing flames as the wood glowed in the hearth and I felt at peace.

Late one murky afternoon as the snow turned to drizzle we went in search of Santa (Father Christmas) in a nearby town. When we finally tracked him down he was so errrr… words fail me errrr strange Mr. Piglet could not bear to watch for fear he would burst out laughing.

Santa’s Grotto consisted of an old bench on the pavement with straw and wood cuttings strewn on the ground for effect. It actually looked more like left-over props from a Nativity scene than Santa’s Grotto.  Santa seemed ill at ease with his role and paced up and down the road, nervously clutching his umbrella. In fact, he appeared totally disinterested and hardly the jolly “Ho Ho Ho” Santa I remembered from our children’s Santa days. Even his dishevelled costume looked somehow out-of-place. However, to be fair I’ve never seen a “French” Santa Claus before so had no frame of reference as to the norm in France. Perhaps this was normal?

Baby granddaughter looked slightly puzzled

Baby granddaughter looked slightly puzzled

His side-kick “Santa’s Elf”, as I named him, sported an impressive camera and tried in vain to sell photo opportunities with “Santa”. We went armed with our own camera and pretended not to understand when he thrust a ticket in our direction while jabbering at us in French. This was a “lost in translation” bonus as we shrugged our shoulders, smiled and continued to take photos. Baby granddaughter looked slightly puzzled but smiled right on cue when she saw the camera. She loves having her photo taken!

The Santa encounter although a little bizarre is still one of my treasured memories.

Christmas day dawned to a clear blue sky and brilliant sunshine, but no snow. We were all up and dressed early eager to open the pile of neatly wrapped presents under the Christmas tree. As this was our granddaughter’s first Christmas we were pleased to share the special moment as she carefully picked off the colourful wrapping paper to reveal the wonderful surprises within. Initially she was more fascinated by the paper and labels than the present itself. However, she soon realized the prize was not the paper and became increasingly excited the more presents she unwrapped.

As I sat back and watched our granddaughter surrounded by all her wonderful presents my thoughts turned to all the children in the world who have nothing and to whom Christmas is just another day and it made me feel sad. I thought of our children and now their children and wanted to hug them all. Christmas should not be about receiving expensive gifts but more about sharing and family. Has Christmas become too commercialized with the true meaning of Christmas lost as we become overly obsessed with buying expensive presents? Strangely enough, apart from her Jumperoo, it was the simplest presents such as building cups, a talking book and a little bear with enormous eyes which seemed to give her pleasure.

Our main Christmas celebration was held on Christmas day at lunchtime rather than the more French traditional Christmas Eve, evening. I much preferred this idea as last time we spent Christmas in France the meal started at 9pm and finally finished around 3am in the morning by which time, as you can imagine, I’d lost the will to live.

Four families sat down to Christmas lunch, each responsible for preparing and serving one course. Our contribution was the apéritif plus champagne. You may think this was simple – wrong! The more we discussed our catering ideas with our daughter the more we realised it was not just nuts, crisps and sausage rolls. No, this had to be a full-blown gastronomic manicured experience to Michelin star standard. Our daughter raised her eyes heavenwards, praying I think for divine intervention at some of our suggestions. OK, so what’s wrong with cheese and pineapple on sticks? Anyway, by the time Mr. Piglet and I went on a grand tour of the supermarket looking for inspiration, I was a nervous wreck! We were determined not to let the “English” side down.

The guests arrived Christmas morning bearing trays of exquisite chocolates, salmon, terrain (similar to pâté but far more sophisticated), more chocolates and a host of other mouth-watering offerings plus very good wines to pair with each course.

While waiting for all the guests to arrive and settle (a long drawn out process in France) we were asked to serve coffee.

Exquisite tray of chocolates provided by SIL’s mother

Exquisite tray of chocolates provided by SIL’s mother

The exquisite tray of chocolates provided by SIL’s mother were opened and then I spotted my daughter had plated up the sweet mincemeat slices I’d made the previous day. I was mortified. Problems with the oven meant they were overcooked resulting in tasteless dry solid teeth breaking squares of oatmeal. They only escaped the dustbin because I can’t abide to waste food.

My oat slices were hardly five star cuisine!

My oat slices were hardly five star cuisine!

So there they were in pride of place on the table. I could have cried. They certainly lacked the finesse of the handmade French chocolates and looked about as appetising as a dried up bowl of porridge. Before I could utter a word of protest they were offered to the “Frenchies” as “traditionally” English. I groaned inwardly “Beam me up Scottie!” They nodded and smiled politely but their body language spoke volumes! I prayed they had good dental cover as they chewed on my oatmeal bullets.

Finally everyone arrived and it was time to serve tray after tray of dainty aperitifs and copious amounts of champagne. At least apart from my home-made sausage rolls everything else was French and less rustic. Two hours later we finally sat down for Christmas lunch. The rest of the day was a blur of excellent food, wine and more food PLUS even more chocolate for dessert.  I think the French are definitely chocoholics.

I am not sure what to make of “French” Christmas lunch other than that while we really enjoyed it, we felt completely alien as though we were outsiders looking in. Language proved to be a big problem and we felt isolated; observers rather than full participants. This made the ten-hour lunch rather surreal almost like sitting at the movies watching a good French film, but without the benefit of English subtitles. Thank goodness our baby granddaughter still converses in smiles and baby coos. However, as I looked at her I felt lost knowing it will only be a matter of time before we will become the grandparents who speak in that “funny” language. People say language submersion is the best way to learn so I am already scouring Ebay and  Amazon to order an English/French dictionary before my next encounter!

On our last but one day in France we went to a family resort in the mountains near Saint Pierre de Chartreuse. The gentle snow-covered slopes were a hive of activity. Not with skiers but with people sledging, cross-country skiers and walkers wearing special snow shoes.

The gentle snow-covered slopes were a hive of activity

The gentle snow-covered slopes were a hive of activity

Fascinated, I studied the assortment of sledges amazed they came in so many different shapes and sizes (I’ve obviously led a sheltered life). However, I was absolutely delighted to see it was not just children who were whizzing down the slopes, but adults too. I can’t wait to return with a sledge and snow shoes. Yay!

What a great Christmas…but we miss our family already!

I also had a great Christmas did you?

I also had a great Christmas!

Size Matters!

My Uncle bought me the biggest teddy he could find!

My Uncle bought me the biggest teddy he could find!

When I saw the size of the teddy bear uncle “EBee” had bought Oliver it made me smile. When I received this photograph it made me laugh out loud. It is by far the largest and softest of ALL the wonderful “cuddly” toys he received.

I am happy to report baby Oliver is now home and doing well. Every day he grows stronger, shouts louder and makes his little presence felt in a big way. I will miss him so much when we return to Portugal.

Thanks to everyone for their kind words on my earlier post Proud Grandparents “take” Two… either in comments or sent by email.

Proud Grandparents “take” Two…

Our latest grandchild less than 24hrs old!

Our latest grandchild less than 24hrs old!

We’d given up on Grandchildren, and then they arrive like buses!

Our first Grandchild, a beautiful little girl, was born in France on the 28th April and our, second grandchild, an adorable little boy called Oliver, was born in the UK just two days ago weighing in at 8lb 14oz!
Initially, in the Special Care Baby Unit due to breathing problems I am relieved to say all is now well and he should be allowed home tomorrow (Saturday)
Last update he was not allowed home today as he has feeding problems…we await further news.

As I walked into the Special Care Baby Unit to meet Oliver for the first time and saw the ‘prems’ (premature babies) fighting for life and my little grandson (huge by comparison) wired up to a machine, memories long-buried, came flooding back to me as though it was yesterday. Our sons (twins) spent the first three weeks of their lives in Special Care due to various complications. Discharged from hospital without them it felt surreal.

We have not been able to cuddle the little chap as yet, but once he is settled in at home we will have lots of cuddles. Plus plenty of practice with our first grandchild means we, actually I should say “I”, am also pretty adept at changing pooey nappies!

Grandparents have their uses!

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Baby Piglet and Language Problems

The last two weeks in France have literally ‘flown’ by! Looking back it seems like only yesterday we were eagerly driving to Lisbon Airport to catch a plane to Lyon. Our daughter, husband and Baby Piglet had just moved to their new home in the French countryside and we’d volunteered our services to help them settle in.

She likes my singing!

She likes my singing!

Mr. Piglet’s DIY (Do-It-Yourself) skills were well utilized and a long list of jobs had already been drafted on our arrival. I was head cook and bottle washer plus baby entertainer and nappy changer.

Their new home is approximately 250 years old – a rustic farm-house with a wealth of character features which gives the place a real ‘homely’ feel. The garden, approximately 1.4 hectares, is great but will be a full-time job in itself to maintain! There are several nut and apple trees along with vines and fruit bushes which already offered an abundance of loganberries, raspberries, red and black currents. This is exactly the type of garden I would love, but in Portugal living so close to the sea it’s just not possible.

Apart from our last visit to France, when our daughter gave birth and we stayed in Valence, we had really only experienced French life in the city of Lyon. A country girl at heart I always felt uneasy in the city so I really appreciated the slower pace of life in the French countryside. The architecture, markets, villages and medieval towns such as Annecy and Chambery were a complete contrast to the towns and villages of Portugal.

Shopping in the local shops and markets was great but I quickly discovered nobody spoke English. My pronunciation of words such as pain au chocolate and pain au raisan (please forgive the spelling) was apparently so bad I was greeted with a blank expression, a grunt and a shrug of the shoulders which immediately knocked my confidence.

As I write this post I feel extremely sad thinking of my little granddaughter ‘Baby Piglet’; I miss her so much. I miss her smiley face as she greeted me each morning and even her shouting for food as she impatiently demanded to be fed. This is definitely a Mr Piglet trait; he also likes to be fed immediately he is hungry!

She chuckled with enthusiasm at my renditions of the various nursery rhymes and lullabies such as ´Incey Wincey Spider`, ‘Rock a bye baby’ and ‘If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands’ to name a few. She was probably thinking “Poor Grandma, better give her a smile even though her singing is dreadful” It’s amazing how all the words and tunes of nursery rhymes and lullabies, unsung for a couple of decades, sprang so readily to mind. My singing is not that tuneful but at least it kept her entertained for a while.

As I entertained ‘Baby Piglet’ I soon realized crawling around on the floor was a problem – I resembled a grounded whale or should I say Jabba the Hutt!. Perhaps NOW was a good time to start the 21 days without sugar diet I’d read on Nina Badzin’s Blog and stop procrastinating and just get on with it!

I soon recognised how ‘Baby Piglet’ communicated her feelings as to when she was happy, hungry, tired, bored, grumpy or just had the grizzles. I discovered she is not a baby that likes lots of cuddles she is far too inquisitive. Instead she prefers to look round and explore the various rooms and their contents. Her little mind, like a sponge, soaking up the running commentary I gave as we walked from room to room pointing out various items.

During our stay, her French Grandparents came for the weekend. Conversation with ‘Baby Piglet’ reverted to French and I felt like a spare part, an outsider. I did not have a clue what was being said and a wave of panic and sadness washed over me as I thought – one day I may not be able to converse with my granddaughter because I can’t speak French!

My thoughts are in turmoil. Could I actually learn to speak French? (I’ve already tried so hard and failed miserably to learn Portuguese), my heart is telling me I must but my head tells me I am useless at languages and I am setting myself up to fail. I wonder how other grandparents fare when their grand children’s first language is not English

What would you do?

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Our little granddaughter sleeps peacefully

After traveling for two days to reach the maternity hospital in Valence (France), where our daughter had given birth to her first baby the day before, we were absolutely physically and mentally exhausted.

We arrived Friday evening just in time to spend a precious hour with our daughter, son-in-law and first granddaughter before visiting time ended. My thoughts and emotions were in turmoil as while she was fine we learned our “baby” piglet was in a great deal of pain due to a difficult birth.

The hospital staff had initially claimed she was making a “fuss”, but quickly changed their tune when they discovered she had fractured her coccyx giving birth. Has anyone else experienced this? Unable to take strong painkillers, as she was breastfeeding, she suffered pretty much in silence. A stubborn streak in her, which I think she inherited from me (surprise, surprise), drove her on and she refused to give in, accept medication and put her little daughter on the bottle.

I watched “our” baby hobble to the bathroom; her steps tentative as her body contorted in pain. My motherly protective instincts kicked in and my heart lurched and as she struggled in agony I started to cry. Mr. Piglet wanted to strangle the doctor who had delivered Lily-May for what only can be described as a total disregard for the Mothers needs. What a callous brute! (That’s the doctor not Mr. Piglet).

We left the hospital that evening feeling on a high at the birth of our first grandchild Lily-May, but on a low for our poor daughter. She had been through so much with the pregnancy and problems with the house move, it seriously made me wonder why God laid such a difficult path for some while others just sauntered through life on a bed of Roses.

Thanks to our GPS our hotel in Valence was easy to find. We dumped our bags, showered and I was so tired I was ready to hit the sack there and then. Mr. Piglet, however, had other plans and insisted his stomach was grumbling so we had to go on a mission to find a cheap restaurant late at night in a strange city. Grrrrr men!

The next four days passed in a blur…

We explored the streets of Valence to pass the time between hospital visits and fell in love with the historic buildings, winding cobbled streets, and unusual shops. Valence was just oozing quaint charm and character so a perfect place to wile away our time. The people were really friendly, unlike in Lyon where my pathetic attempts to speak French were met with barely a grunt of acknowledgment and blank stare. In fact Valence had a sort of “homely” feel which was extremely comforting at a time we were feeling lost and confused.

We felt almost in state of limbo as we had no idea how long our daughter would need to stay in hospital as she was bed bound and needed care.

Here is a slide show of Valence…as they say “A picture saves a 1000 words!”

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On Wednesday when we arrived at the hospital, I think it was Wednesday as looking back one day just merged seamlessly with the next – one minute we were quietly chatting and cuddling Lily-May and the next, the room became a hive of activity. Medical speke is bad enough in your mother tongue, but in a foreign language, we stood there like a couple of spare parts. We were then informed that instead of transferring our daughter and Lily-May to another hospital, as they needed her bed, she was to be sent home under something called “home hospitalization”. The Doctors, Midwives and Nurses treated you at home. What a brilliant idea – although our daughter was apprehensive I was secretly pleased as I detest hospitals. They are not always the best place to recover as you catch bugs, you can’t sleep and the food is disgusting.

Our daughter, having made the decision to return to their temporary home with the in-laws in Provence to make her recovery, organised us all with military precision before we all went into headless chicken mode. Draws and lockers were hastily emptied and everything was packed up ready to go. Lily-May was suitably dressed for the journey, Mr. Piglet dispatched to the hotel to pack up all our belongings, an ambulance organized and we were off.

We all descended on our French in-laws and the next part of our “adventure” is to be continued. It was a difficult time but enjoyable and even humourous as I grappled with shopping in France; had a close encounter with a pooh missile while changing Lily-May; frozen condoms, enjoyed wonderful French food, learned how to cook a traditional French recipe while helping to look after our daughter and Lily-May.

My goodness there is never a dull moment in the Piglet household and we were certainly on an emotional rollercoaster!

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Proud Grandparents!

Hi folks I’m finally back. My goodness what an adventure!

I will share my thoughts and escapades in France over the next couple of posts so I don’t bore you with my enthusiasm all in one go.

Introducing Lily-May our first grandchild

Introducing Lily-May our first grandchild

My “Gone Fishing” post was hurriedly added on Thursday 28th April as a result of a phone call from our daughter in France – she had finally gone into labour and was in hospital. No more “false” alarms this was it!

Mr. Piglet and I immediately went into “headless chicken” mode as we checked out flights on the internet and contemplated the quickest way to travel to France during a very busy holiday period. We abandoned all earlier plans of taking the plane and train and decided to drive the 2000 kilometres from Portugal, across Spain and into France.

Lily-May

Lily-May

We quickly threw clothes into the suitcases, gathered together anything that we thought might be remotely useful (most of which was not), mobilized an army of friends to care for our garden and pool, made my “Gone Fishing” blog post and we were off!

During the course of the afternoon, as we were racing across Spain, we received a text from our daughter to say baby Pigleta should be born in 30 minutes, the wonders of modern technology…but then no further communication for hours.

What was happening? Was everything OK? How were Mummy Piglet (Piglet in France) and baby Pigleta faring…?

We then received a text confirming Lily-May (Pigleta), our first granddaughter, was born at 16.13, measuring 49cms and weighing 3.540 kg. We felt elated! However, this elation turned to concern when we later learned all was not well with our daughter. She had experienced problems during the birth and may have broken her coccyx.

After 800km the journey was taking its toll so we made the decision to make a stop-over in Madrid and continue early the next morning. As we programmed our GPS system our thoughts were in turmoil, and with 1200km still to travel it would be touch-and-go as to whether we would make it to the hospital before visiting time ended. Oh what an unbelievably frustrating day – we not only encountered miles on miles of road works but then came the Friday evening traffic jams as we hit the French motorways. It was motoring hell!

Reality then dawned on us, as three lanes of traffic ground to a complete standstill, that after all this effort we may not make it to the hospital to hug our daughter and meet Lily-May this evening, and yet another day would pass. Living in an area of Portugal where four cars represented a traffic jam we had completely forgotten the “stress” and “volume” of Friday afternoon traffic. Tears of frustration rolled down my cheeks as I saw miles of red tail-lights disappear over the horizon.

To top it all our mobile phone then rang and a friend from Portugal informed us they had just experienced the worst electrical storm in a decade and our electricity had tripped. In our rush to depart yesterday morning none of our friends had our house key so they could reset the electric. Pooh! Pooh POOH!!! We were going to lose all the contents of our freezer and fridge, which were both stacked to capacity due to us taking advantage of a generous supermarket discount voucher, just last week. I don’t know if someone “above” at this point suddenly took pity on us but the traffic miraculously started to clear and we were on the move. As our speed increased a glimmer of hope was rekindled – we may just make it!

Lily-May looks really stylish

Lily-May looks really stylish


We finally arrived at the hospital, physically and mentally exhausted from our journey, just an hour before visiting time ended. Our son-in-law fortunately came to meet us at the entrance of the maternity building to save us precious minutes in hunting for the correct ward. I almost fell into his arms with relief. As we walked in to our daughter’s room and was introduced to our granddaughter our hearts melted and the long, hot and frustrating journey was quickly forgotten. We were immediately smitten with Lily-May and I suddenly understood the joys of being a grandparent.

Any tips gratefully received!

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